Weight Loss Affects Those Around Us

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When we decide to change, it means that all the people around us need to change how they relate to us. The list of change does include weight loss. When we choose to take care of ourselves and lose unnecessary weight, it changes everything in our lives including how the people around us relate to the “new” look.

The easy part is to decide to lose weight. The challenging part is how it will change our lives and the lives of everyone around us. It takes courage to push through the challenges our decisions create in our lives. It’s like dropping a stone into perfectly calm water. The stone represents us, and our decision. The ripples are the effects our changes have in our environment and people in our lives.

A great example of the effects of this change is eating “different” foods or quantities of food through out the day. If living alone, this has little or no daily impact on another person. If living with a partner or family, these changes effects each of them. Are they willing to be supportive in the changes, or do they want everything to stay the same? Staying the same usually translates into no weight loss. . .

Another example is finding time to exercise. By taking time to partake in fitness activities, the time needs to come from somewhere. When time priorities shift, it is possible that others will feel “left-out” or of less valued.

It is important to define the changes that need to happen to support the goal of weight loss, figure out how to communicate these changes in a diplomatic way, and create a close supportive network of individuals to help encourage the changes.

Wellness to All. . .Karen

Food Strategies for the Holidays

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The holidays are filled with amazing foods, especially fudge, cookies, pies, and large meals. Traditionally, it is the time to feast and celebrate. It can cause us to gain unwanted weight, and causes food-related stress.

It’s not fun watching everyone eat, and feel like you cannot participate in the “celebration.” I think we tend to focus on what we cannot do, instead of realizing we are making a choice. We choose not to eat certain foods, because _________. Each of us will have different reasons for not eating the high-sugar, high-calorie foods of the Holiday season.

I love home-made fudge! I choose not to eat a lot of it, because it contributes to water-retention and swelling in my joints. I make the choice to feel better, instead of indulging and hurting for a week or two. Each of us has different reasons for not wanting to eat certain foods. We need to realize and honor ourselves, over the peer pressure of other people or holiday memories.

I believe that we need to re-define what it means to celebrate the holidays. Does it really mean to eat so much food we feel sick? Or, is it a time to re-connect with family and friends? What role does food play in these events? Does it really need to be a high-calorie feast, or can it be a healthier alternative?

It’s easy to follow the same old path that we grew up knowing. It can be challenging to create new traditions. I think the Thanksgiving turkey is ingrained into our societal culture. When we think of Thanksgiving, we think about the large turkey dinner with all the fixings. What would happen if we chose another meal option?

Our culture dictates that certain foods go with specific holidays. We blindly follow this rule, without questioning its relevance in our lives. Do we really need the huge turkey feast? Or, can we chose other options and still celebrate the holiday?

Just a little food for thought. . .

Blessings for a fun-filled safe Thanksgiving. . .

Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coash

Holiday Stressors & Food!

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We’re coming into the holidays, and often becomes the most stressful time of the year! There is all the “things” to complete, decorations to put into place, shopping, parties, family gatherings, and the holiday food. Sometimes, I think we cram a year of “everything” into the month of December!

How can 1 person orchestrate and accomplish all this in 1 month (on top of their normal schedule)? It’s no wonder that people gain weight during the holidays!

Is it possible to enjoy all the festivities, and maintain / lose weight during this time? YES!

Here are a couple ideas to consider, to ease the holiday stress and bring more joy into the season.

First, it’s not about material items. “Life is about the journey, not the destination.” We place undue expectations on ourselves to be the “perfect” hostess, mother/father, or ___________. Perfection is truly a culmination of imperfect events that are perceived through our collective experiences. It’s really about doing / being the best we can. The holiday season tends to bring up memories (good or bad), while we strive to achieve impossible goals for others. Remember, we are one human being, and capable of a limited amount of “things” we can accomplish in a short period of time (aka the Holiday season).

Second, people love you for you, not for what you can do for them. Love isn’t conditional! Love is accepting, forgiving, and compassionate. The Holiday season is richer with these ideals, instead of the mass consumerism that begins with huge crowds on Black Friday. There is greater value in life experiences, instead of one more toy, piece of jewelry, or tool under the Christmas tree. It is nice to give gifts to those we love and care about. It’s just not the only thing that matters. Relationships are more important that “things.”

Feeling stressed and overwhelmed with the season? Try closing your eyes, taking a few deep breathes, and repeating a mantra that helps you calm down.

Life is Good!

Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Healing Self

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Losing weight requires us to heal ourselves. Every pound shed carries past wrongs, other people’s opinions, and old paradigms. It’s a process of healing self.

You become the caterpillar transforming into the butterfly. . .

So. . .reached a plateau?

Or. . .feel uneasy at your new weight?

It’s worth taking the time to look and remember what it is within yourself at this new weight. Memories are energy, and we store them in our bodies.

I finally reached “that” zone where I need to look inward, and allow myself to heal. Whether it is my father’s voice screaming at me about “killing” my mom as she was dying from cancer at the hospital or the harsh words of a former employer, I need to look at these issues and let them go.

These “things” only hurt me, and damage my physical body. I cannot control other people, but I can control how I take these incidents. I can keep the unkindness, or choose to let them go. It comes down to the question, “what kind of person do I want to be?”

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Stuck at a specific weight? Take time to journal about your feelings. Look at the words, and decide if you need to change.

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

 

Afraid of Change. . .

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Afraid of Change? Don’t like Change? Have difficulty with Change?

If so, know that you’re not alone. Many people are afraid of or have difficulty with change. Yet, change is the only constant in the Universe.

Think about this. . .

Our body weight changes daily. Friends come and go. Family relationships are in constant flux. We are mobile and constantly moving. Our workplace is in constant change due to the business climate.

Even our personal lives are in constant change, even if we want to deny it.

Being in the present means embracing the constant change, celebrating it, and adapting to it with a positive attitude. It is truly up to us to create the atmosphere in our own lives.

On a personal level, a lot of the changes are fueled by our personal choices, view points, and attitude. Don’t like something? Make a conscious decision to change it. It may not happen immediately, but the change will happen.

Part of the journey of weight loss or fitness is embracing change. Our bodies are going to change. Our clothing sizes are going to change. Our reflection in the mirror is going to change. Our attitudes are going to change. The people around us are going to continue to change.

Weight loss and fitness gains is about change! If you want it, expect and embrace the changes that will come your way. It will happen!

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Do you like change? If not, why not? How can it become easier to accept change? What would you need to do to accept changes in your life? Journal writing is a great way to explore these ideas. . .

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Too Busy?

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The easiest excuse for avoiding weight loss and fitness is “I’m too busy!”

Now, let that sink in a bit.

How can one be too busy to take care of themselves, their health, and their state of being? I think the answer is should be “I’m too afraid to face _______.”

We don’t put on the extra pounds due to being part of the present and enjoying life. The extra pounds come on because of something. It could be an injury, an illness, a health issue, a psychological issue, stress, trauma. . .I think you get the picture.

We store the energy of these “things” in our bodies. It manifests itself as extra weight, physical and/or emotional pain, our attitudes, and in other ways both seen / unseen.

The first step to “finding” the time is to make fitness and wellness a priority. When we decide something is important, we give our time freely to the activity.

There is always time for what we truly want to do. . .

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Is weight loss, wellness, or fitness important to you? If so, are you will willing to invest the time into yourself? Scared? Explore the reasons why through journal writing or other self-exploration activity. Find ways to overcome the fear, and become part of your life. . .

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Holidays & Food Consumption

 

The fourth of July is tomorrow. It’s a great day for picnics, barbecues, fireworks, and outdoor activities. Usually, there is food. . .lots of food, and not necessarily healthy food.

What to do?

Make smart choices.

I avoid hot dogs, but am happy to eat a hamburger. Hot dogs have too much fat and too little nutritional value. I will eat chips, but a small amount. Potato salad is wonderful!

So, it goes to portion sizes, or skipping something else. I tend to eat in moderation. It’s okay to feel a little bit of hunger.

Basically, I’m not going without. I’m taking care of myself, for myself and those I love.

I tend to think about portion sizes. I don’t worry so much about everything needing to be healthy food. I find that if I deny myself the opportunity to choose, I crave the item I’ve band from my diet. I guess it’s true that we want what we cannot have. . .

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Have a wonderful holiday! Eat food you enjoy! Work on controlling the portions, and don’t worry about the rest! Remember moderation. . .

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach