Changing Perspectives

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I’ve taken a break from weight loss, and worked to maintain a healthier body weight. My original goal was to be 160 pounds, and I reached 155. My mind kept focusing on the 160, and I actually put the 5 pounds back onto my body. It comes down to the power of the mind.

So, I struggled, not realizing that I had not given my mind a new goal to accomplish. Now, I’ve changed how I’m thinking about weight loss, and how to make it permanent. When we change one aspect of ourselves, we need to allow or give permission to other aspects to change or embrace the change.

Body image plays a huge role in the idea of permanent weight loss. Our mind strives to maintain our body image. When we look in the mirror, we see ourselves. Losing weight changes the visual cues. We need to change how we view ourselves.

Challenge to Those Who Accept. . .Look in the mirror, and study what you see. Does the reflection reflect your own views about yourself? If not, what are the differences? And, do you want to change?

Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Steps to Healthy Self Talk & Self Image

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Steps to Change Self Talk & Self Image. . .

  1. Listen to Your Words
    What words do you regularly use? Are they positive or negative or angry or happy? These words define how we communicate with ourselves and others. Our choice of words reflect our feels, emotional development, and insecurities.
  2. Listen to Your Feelings
    After speaking or experiencing an event, how did it make you feel? As human beings, we are emotional beings. Often, we try to turn off our emotions. These unspoken emotions need to go somewhere, so they manifest themselves as extra weight, cluttered homes, or illness.
  3. Keep a Journal
    A journal helps clarify what we are thinking and feeling. It is a private space that allows us to express our deepest fears or happiness. This is a tool that is beneficial through the freedom of expressing one’s self.
  4. Exercise
    Exercise helps burn off extra energy, clarify thoughts, and improve mental focus. It’s also a useful tool to lose extra weight. Exercise is merely taking time to physically move the body in a way that increases heart rate or strengthens muscles.
  5. Forgive Yourself and Others
    Forgiveness allows us to move on with our lives. We forgive for ourselves, not for the other person. Without forgiving, the other person’s transgressions continue to control our thoughts and actions until the day we choose to forgive.

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Follow the steps listed above for a month. Keep track of the changes in your life through the process. Leave comments on your progress.

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

What’s on Your Mind?

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So, what’s on your mind?

I woke up realizing that my whole life was being colored by a handful of thoughts. Those thoughts were given to me by my mother. I woke up thinking about all the times she accused me of lying, stealing, and being ungrateful.

WOW!

This theme appears over and over in my life. I always feel like I don’t fit in. How can I be good enough if I’m such a “bad” person?

The unhappiness contributed to my weight gain, and social isolation.

It’s affected my business, relationships, and health.

The interesting thing is that I live in Gratitude, give to others in need, and am honest. I always have been. I think that my mom didn’t understand the idea of abundance. She grew up without, and carried it into her adult life.

I’m not sure when the first instance of this line of thought was introduced to me, but it has had a lasting impact on my life. Words are powerful! Their impact can last a lifetime.

When we talk about our self-talk, it is important to understand that those words my not have come from your authentic self. They may be the words of a parent, family member, teacher, or other person who is or passed through your life.

As an adult, it is time to decide if those words suit your lifestyle, dreams, or goals. If not, then it’s your responsibility to make the change.

It took me years to like myself. I spent each day looking into the mirror, and saying “I like myself.” It was really hard to do in the beginning. The result is that I now like myself. I feel better emotionally, and know that I’m not the person that my mother thought I was.

I freely practice gratitude. My teenage son says please and thank you, and means it. My life partner is coming back to gratitude. Self worth is linked to gratitude. It takes little energy to say thank you, especially for the little things.

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Listen to your self-talk. Does it reflect who you are? Does it hurt you? Does it make you feel good or bad about yourself? Do you want to change it?

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Mind + Body + Spirit

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Mind + Body + Spirit = Fitness

What does this really mean?

We are more than a physical body. Our logic may deem that losing weight is solely associated with the physical body. The physical body reflects the physical aspects of too much weight. It harbors painful joints, illness, or chronic sleep issues.

If you think about it, what are the reasons the extra weight crept on, and you were unable to stop it from happening?

Our minds think thoughts all the time. The mind doesn’t shut down, unless we allow it to be quiet. To reach this “quiet” state, we can meditate, drink a glass of wine, or exercise. The question becomes, do the thoughts stop, slow down, become clear, or continue uninterrupted?

What are these thoughts say about ourselves, our family, our situation, someone else. . .

Do these thoughts sound like our parents? Our partners/spouses? Our friends? Our children? Our self?

These thoughts are an integral part of whether we will be successful in losing excessive weight. Our self-talk reflects our feelings about our self, and only our self. It can be our private “hell” or moral support.

The spirit portion isn’t necessarily clear cut as the body or the mind. It is something less physically tangible. Part of it is the energy flow through the physical body, mind, and energy field surrounding the body. It is the soul essence. It is that part that is activated when following “your heart” or dreams.

Each of these 3 pieces influence our physical presence in the world. Each is equally important to address, when making life changes. Losing weight is a major life change. It takes courage, strength, and determination. It is one of the most important choices we can make, and it’s solely for ourselves.

Our self esteem is derived from a balance of these 3 pieces in our being. I’ll be talking further on each piece in upcoming blog entries.

Challenge to Those Who Accept. . .Take an inventory of these 3 pieces of your being. Try to be unbiased in your assessments. Think about what is working, and what may need to change. More later. . .

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

 

Healing Self

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Losing weight requires us to heal ourselves. Every pound shed carries past wrongs, other people’s opinions, and old paradigms. It’s a process of healing self.

You become the caterpillar transforming into the butterfly. . .

So. . .reached a plateau?

Or. . .feel uneasy at your new weight?

It’s worth taking the time to look and remember what it is within yourself at this new weight. Memories are energy, and we store them in our bodies.

I finally reached “that” zone where I need to look inward, and allow myself to heal. Whether it is my father’s voice screaming at me about “killing” my mom as she was dying from cancer at the hospital or the harsh words of a former employer, I need to look at these issues and let them go.

These “things” only hurt me, and damage my physical body. I cannot control other people, but I can control how I take these incidents. I can keep the unkindness, or choose to let them go. It comes down to the question, “what kind of person do I want to be?”

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Stuck at a specific weight? Take time to journal about your feelings. Look at the words, and decide if you need to change.

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

 

Wait a Minute. . .

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Wait a Minute. . .what do you mean my clothing from last year will not fit me this year?

This is what happens when divesting your body of excessive weight. It means those clothes worn last year that fit will be too big this year.

What an amazing realization!

I’ve lost 30 + pounds, and all the warm clothing I wore last year will be too big. . .really too big. I’ve moved down clothing sizes!

It becomes a journey of re-discovering yourself. All those amazing “little” clothes will now fit, and look good. This little fact requires a lot of change in how you view yourself.

What to do you do?

I went window shopping. I looked at all the really cool lacy tops and jackets, slowly realizing that I could wear them without looking like I was “stuffed” into them. I could wear the smaller sizes, and “feel” comfortable.

What does it mean to be smaller in size?

Besides the health benefits, there is a huge psychological boost. It becomes easier to look in the mirror and feel good. People begin to notice you in public, and say hello. Self-esteem comes back. It’s easier to choose to feel happy.

I think the list is endless, and different for each person.

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .keep a record of the changes in yourself as the weight comes off. Take time to adjust to the changes. It makes it easier to keep the weight off, and make permanent lifestyle changes. Maybe, go window shopping, and try on clothing. . .

Wellness to All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach