Weight Loss Affects Those Around Us

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When we decide to change, it means that all the people around us need to change how they relate to us. The list of change does include weight loss. When we choose to take care of ourselves and lose unnecessary weight, it changes everything in our lives including how the people around us relate to the “new” look.

The easy part is to decide to lose weight. The challenging part is how it will change our lives and the lives of everyone around us. It takes courage to push through the challenges our decisions create in our lives. It’s like dropping a stone into perfectly calm water. The stone represents us, and our decision. The ripples are the effects our changes have in our environment and people in our lives.

A great example of the effects of this change is eating “different” foods or quantities of food through out the day. If living alone, this has little or no daily impact on another person. If living with a partner or family, these changes effects each of them. Are they willing to be supportive in the changes, or do they want everything to stay the same? Staying the same usually translates into no weight loss. . .

Another example is finding time to exercise. By taking time to partake in fitness activities, the time needs to come from somewhere. When time priorities shift, it is possible that others will feel “left-out” or of less valued.

It is important to define the changes that need to happen to support the goal of weight loss, figure out how to communicate these changes in a diplomatic way, and create a close supportive network of individuals to help encourage the changes.

Wellness to All. . .Karen

Over-looked Component of Weight Loss

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One of the biggest drains in our lives is the person who seems to depend on our energy to make it through the day. These individuals are called “energy vampires”, and live in every segment of society.

When working through weight loss, these individuals can make the process more difficult. They attach into us through touch, words, and actions. Often times, they do things that lead to self-doubt or disappointment. Our exhaustion makes it more difficult to exercise or stay focused on our goals.

For strategies to disconnect from an “energy vampire”, here is a link to my article published and featured by OM Times.

Changes. . .

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Life sometimes happens, and it can be messy! Life decided to change my direction with a sudden jolt of changes. . .

First, I’ve left Beachbody for a number of reasons I (that I will not go into here). I am still on my path of health, fitness, and healthy weight loss / maintenance.

Second, my focus is more on my freelance writing and photography, and I’m working on expanding my client base. Yeah!

Third, I intend to continue with this blog on a regular bases.

The biggest message life is handing me right now is simply change is the only constant in our world. It’s time to embrace it, and move forward.

Wellness for All. . .Karen

 

What’s in a Number?

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What’s in a Number? Weight is a number. Body measurements are numbers. Calories are counted in numbers. Exercise is tracked in numbers. Time is recorded in numbers.

Our minds grasp numbers, and hang onto them. It takes time for those numbers in our head to change to current information.

I’ve been quiet for a while, because I’m struggling with numbers. My mind struggles to comprehend my current weight. It keeps trying to change the number.

I’ve accomplished reaching the 150’s, yet my mind keeps translating it as the 160’s. This change for me is harder than losing weight!

Why is this important?

It’s important, because we cannot keep the weight loss without thinking the correct weight. In other words, if we cannot believe or accept our new weight, we cannot maintain that weight. Our thoughts are powerful, affects our self image, and controls the changes in our lives. What we think, we are.

I decided to stay in the 150’s to allow my thoughts to catch up with my newly emerging body image. My thoughts need to reflect my actual weight and fitness levels. It’s one of the most important keys to maintaining weight loss.

More later. . .

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Steps to Healthy Self Talk & Self Image

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Steps to Change Self Talk & Self Image. . .

  1. Listen to Your Words
    What words do you regularly use? Are they positive or negative or angry or happy? These words define how we communicate with ourselves and others. Our choice of words reflect our feels, emotional development, and insecurities.
  2. Listen to Your Feelings
    After speaking or experiencing an event, how did it make you feel? As human beings, we are emotional beings. Often, we try to turn off our emotions. These unspoken emotions need to go somewhere, so they manifest themselves as extra weight, cluttered homes, or illness.
  3. Keep a Journal
    A journal helps clarify what we are thinking and feeling. It is a private space that allows us to express our deepest fears or happiness. This is a tool that is beneficial through the freedom of expressing one’s self.
  4. Exercise
    Exercise helps burn off extra energy, clarify thoughts, and improve mental focus. It’s also a useful tool to lose extra weight. Exercise is merely taking time to physically move the body in a way that increases heart rate or strengthens muscles.
  5. Forgive Yourself and Others
    Forgiveness allows us to move on with our lives. We forgive for ourselves, not for the other person. Without forgiving, the other person’s transgressions continue to control our thoughts and actions until the day we choose to forgive.

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Follow the steps listed above for a month. Keep track of the changes in your life through the process. Leave comments on your progress.

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Mind + Body + Spirit

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Mind + Body + Spirit = Fitness

What does this really mean?

We are more than a physical body. Our logic may deem that losing weight is solely associated with the physical body. The physical body reflects the physical aspects of too much weight. It harbors painful joints, illness, or chronic sleep issues.

If you think about it, what are the reasons the extra weight crept on, and you were unable to stop it from happening?

Our minds think thoughts all the time. The mind doesn’t shut down, unless we allow it to be quiet. To reach this “quiet” state, we can meditate, drink a glass of wine, or exercise. The question becomes, do the thoughts stop, slow down, become clear, or continue uninterrupted?

What are these thoughts say about ourselves, our family, our situation, someone else. . .

Do these thoughts sound like our parents? Our partners/spouses? Our friends? Our children? Our self?

These thoughts are an integral part of whether we will be successful in losing excessive weight. Our self-talk reflects our feelings about our self, and only our self. It can be our private “hell” or moral support.

The spirit portion isn’t necessarily clear cut as the body or the mind. It is something less physically tangible. Part of it is the energy flow through the physical body, mind, and energy field surrounding the body. It is the soul essence. It is that part that is activated when following “your heart” or dreams.

Each of these 3 pieces influence our physical presence in the world. Each is equally important to address, when making life changes. Losing weight is a major life change. It takes courage, strength, and determination. It is one of the most important choices we can make, and it’s solely for ourselves.

Our self esteem is derived from a balance of these 3 pieces in our being. I’ll be talking further on each piece in upcoming blog entries.

Challenge to Those Who Accept. . .Take an inventory of these 3 pieces of your being. Try to be unbiased in your assessments. Think about what is working, and what may need to change. More later. . .

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

 

Changes in the Closet!

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Benefits of Losing Weight. . .

  1. More closet space
    The clothing worn at smaller sizes use less fabric, thus taking up less closet space. The plus side is that you could own more clothing in the same space, or you could gain space for other things.
  2. Less food stored
    It takes fewer calories to maintain a healthy diet and weight. This equates to more space for healthy food, or gaining area for storing kitchen gadgets.
  3. Less Illness
    A healthy body is less likely to become ill. The body’s ability to protect itself from infection it stronger.
  4. Saving money
    Smaller clothing sizes cost less money than larger sizes. Less trips to the doctor for illness cuts down on medical expenses.
  5. Feeling better
    Less weight equals less pressure placed on joints and muscles. Less pain allows us to feel better overall. It becomes more comfortable being in public places. Our attitudes seem to improve with successful weight loss.

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Think of 1 to 3 things that would be better if you lost weight. Write these things down into your list of goals to accomplish on your weight loss journey.

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach