Changing Perspectives

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I’ve taken a break from weight loss, and worked to maintain a healthier body weight. My original goal was to be 160 pounds, and I reached 155. My mind kept focusing on the 160, and I actually put the 5 pounds back onto my body. It comes down to the power of the mind.

So, I struggled, not realizing that I had not given my mind a new goal to accomplish. Now, I’ve changed how I’m thinking about weight loss, and how to make it permanent. When we change one aspect of ourselves, we need to allow or give permission to other aspects to change or embrace the change.

Body image plays a huge role in the idea of permanent weight loss. Our mind strives to maintain our body image. When we look in the mirror, we see ourselves. Losing weight changes the visual cues. We need to change how we view ourselves.

Challenge to Those Who Accept. . .Look in the mirror, and study what you see. Does the reflection reflect your own views about yourself? If not, what are the differences? And, do you want to change?

Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

What’s in a Number?

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What’s in a Number? Weight is a number. Body measurements are numbers. Calories are counted in numbers. Exercise is tracked in numbers. Time is recorded in numbers.

Our minds grasp numbers, and hang onto them. It takes time for those numbers in our head to change to current information.

I’ve been quiet for a while, because I’m struggling with numbers. My mind struggles to comprehend my current weight. It keeps trying to change the number.

I’ve accomplished reaching the 150’s, yet my mind keeps translating it as the 160’s. This change for me is harder than losing weight!

Why is this important?

It’s important, because we cannot keep the weight loss without thinking the correct weight. In other words, if we cannot believe or accept our new weight, we cannot maintain that weight. Our thoughts are powerful, affects our self image, and controls the changes in our lives. What we think, we are.

I decided to stay in the 150’s to allow my thoughts to catch up with my newly emerging body image. My thoughts need to reflect my actual weight and fitness levels. It’s one of the most important keys to maintaining weight loss.

More later. . .

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Time for Self Care

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Self care is healing to the self. It is the moments in our busy lives we stop and honor ourselves. We momentarily let go of the budget, family issues, work challenges, and focus on quieting the inner self. We invest in our own well-being.

What does this mean?

We are taking time to work on ourselves. It is the time where we can find clarity in our thoughts and emotions. It is like a mini-spa moment in our daily life.

What is self care?

It is different for each person. It could be a long walk, or a journal entry. It could be a personal ritual to find inner peace, like meditation or yoga.

What does self care effect?

Self care changes the way we feel about ourselves. It allows us moments of being ourselves. It heals our spiritual / soul (energy field) wounds. This is a portion of the “spirit” in Mind + Body + Spirit = Fitness.

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .What self care practices are currently in your life?

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Steps to Healthy Self Talk & Self Image

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Steps to Change Self Talk & Self Image. . .

  1. Listen to Your Words
    What words do you regularly use? Are they positive or negative or angry or happy? These words define how we communicate with ourselves and others. Our choice of words reflect our feels, emotional development, and insecurities.
  2. Listen to Your Feelings
    After speaking or experiencing an event, how did it make you feel? As human beings, we are emotional beings. Often, we try to turn off our emotions. These unspoken emotions need to go somewhere, so they manifest themselves as extra weight, cluttered homes, or illness.
  3. Keep a Journal
    A journal helps clarify what we are thinking and feeling. It is a private space that allows us to express our deepest fears or happiness. This is a tool that is beneficial through the freedom of expressing one’s self.
  4. Exercise
    Exercise helps burn off extra energy, clarify thoughts, and improve mental focus. It’s also a useful tool to lose extra weight. Exercise is merely taking time to physically move the body in a way that increases heart rate or strengthens muscles.
  5. Forgive Yourself and Others
    Forgiveness allows us to move on with our lives. We forgive for ourselves, not for the other person. Without forgiving, the other person’s transgressions continue to control our thoughts and actions until the day we choose to forgive.

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Follow the steps listed above for a month. Keep track of the changes in your life through the process. Leave comments on your progress.

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

The Power of Solar Eclipse in Our Lives

This is just a brief note. I’m currently experiencing the solar eclipse today. The gravitational pull of the sun, moon, and planets will affect our energy today.

For me, it’s the beginning of a new chapter in my life. It works because I set this goal in my mind, I’m experiencing / feeling the shifting energy, and I believe that it is happening.

I hope your day is filled with blessings, and positive new beginnings.

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

What’s on Your Mind?

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So, what’s on your mind?

I woke up realizing that my whole life was being colored by a handful of thoughts. Those thoughts were given to me by my mother. I woke up thinking about all the times she accused me of lying, stealing, and being ungrateful.

WOW!

This theme appears over and over in my life. I always feel like I don’t fit in. How can I be good enough if I’m such a “bad” person?

The unhappiness contributed to my weight gain, and social isolation.

It’s affected my business, relationships, and health.

The interesting thing is that I live in Gratitude, give to others in need, and am honest. I always have been. I think that my mom didn’t understand the idea of abundance. She grew up without, and carried it into her adult life.

I’m not sure when the first instance of this line of thought was introduced to me, but it has had a lasting impact on my life. Words are powerful! Their impact can last a lifetime.

When we talk about our self-talk, it is important to understand that those words my not have come from your authentic self. They may be the words of a parent, family member, teacher, or other person who is or passed through your life.

As an adult, it is time to decide if those words suit your lifestyle, dreams, or goals. If not, then it’s your responsibility to make the change.

It took me years to like myself. I spent each day looking into the mirror, and saying “I like myself.” It was really hard to do in the beginning. The result is that I now like myself. I feel better emotionally, and know that I’m not the person that my mother thought I was.

I freely practice gratitude. My teenage son says please and thank you, and means it. My life partner is coming back to gratitude. Self worth is linked to gratitude. It takes little energy to say thank you, especially for the little things.

Challenge for Those Who Accept. . .Listen to your self-talk. Does it reflect who you are? Does it hurt you? Does it make you feel good or bad about yourself? Do you want to change it?

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach

Mind + Body + Spirit

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Mind + Body + Spirit = Fitness

What does this really mean?

We are more than a physical body. Our logic may deem that losing weight is solely associated with the physical body. The physical body reflects the physical aspects of too much weight. It harbors painful joints, illness, or chronic sleep issues.

If you think about it, what are the reasons the extra weight crept on, and you were unable to stop it from happening?

Our minds think thoughts all the time. The mind doesn’t shut down, unless we allow it to be quiet. To reach this “quiet” state, we can meditate, drink a glass of wine, or exercise. The question becomes, do the thoughts stop, slow down, become clear, or continue uninterrupted?

What are these thoughts say about ourselves, our family, our situation, someone else. . .

Do these thoughts sound like our parents? Our partners/spouses? Our friends? Our children? Our self?

These thoughts are an integral part of whether we will be successful in losing excessive weight. Our self-talk reflects our feelings about our self, and only our self. It can be our private “hell” or moral support.

The spirit portion isn’t necessarily clear cut as the body or the mind. It is something less physically tangible. Part of it is the energy flow through the physical body, mind, and energy field surrounding the body. It is the soul essence. It is that part that is activated when following “your heart” or dreams.

Each of these 3 pieces influence our physical presence in the world. Each is equally important to address, when making life changes. Losing weight is a major life change. It takes courage, strength, and determination. It is one of the most important choices we can make, and it’s solely for ourselves.

Our self esteem is derived from a balance of these 3 pieces in our being. I’ll be talking further on each piece in upcoming blog entries.

Challenge to Those Who Accept. . .Take an inventory of these 3 pieces of your being. Try to be unbiased in your assessments. Think about what is working, and what may need to change. More later. . .

To Wellness for All. . .Karen

Fitness & Wellness Coach